My wife and I have been practicing mindfulness of mental formations for months but we keep disagreeing about which emotions deserve investigation versus which ones to just let pass. When she's triggered she wants to analyze the mental factors, when I'm triggered I want to just observe impermanence, and we're creating more suffering for each other instead of less.
More people experience this than they realize.
Your different strategies for engaging with mental formations are creating disconnection precisely when you most need to be present with each other.
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