My wife and I keep having the same fight about money every few months and yesterday we both realized we're replaying the exact dynamic her parents had and the one mine had, just with different details. We can see the pattern now but we don't know how to actually break out of it when we're in it.
More people experience this than they realize.
Recognition of destructive patterns doesn't automatically provide the tools to interrupt them in real time.
“Where Are You with History as pattern recognition?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.