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When couples get trapped in cycles that prevent commitment to change

My wife and I promised each other we'd stop complaining about our jobs and either find new ones or accept where we are, but six months later we're still having the same conversations and I think we're using each other as an excuse to stay stuck because changing feels too risky.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people are unconsciously using their shared complaints as a way to avoid the vulnerability and uncertainty that real change would demand.

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“Where Are You with ACT — acceptance and commitment?”

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