My wife has been doing EMDR for her complex PTSD for six months and I can see how much it's helping her, but I'm starting to realize that some of her trauma responses that I learned to manage and work around were actually keeping me from dealing with my own stuff, and now I don't know how to bring up that I think I need therapy too without making her feel guilty about getting better.
More people experience this than they realize.
Individual healing can disturb the unconscious agreements that couples make around whose trauma gets attention, forcing both people to renegotiate their roles in the relationship.
“Where Are You with EMDR and trauma processing?”
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