Three of us friends have been supporting each other through divorces this year and we've gotten really tight, but now one person is dating again and pulling back from our group, and I can feel all of us getting activated about abandonment and loyalty in ways that remind me uncomfortably of my marriage.
More people experience this than they realize.
Crisis bonds can create pseudo-family dynamics where individual growth feels like betrayal to the collective attachment system.
“Where Are You with Attachment in adult relationships?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.