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Why people-pleasing creates unconscious resentment

I keep agreeing to things I don't want to do then resenting people for asking even though they have no idea I wanted to say no.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Avoiding immediate discomfort of boundary-setting creates deeper suffering through accumulated inauthenticity.

Ideas that help explain it
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