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Scenario

When helping becomes a way to avoid intimacy

I keep choosing partners who need fixing because I feel most valuable when someone depends on me, but then I lose attraction once they become healthy.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The helper role provides a sense of control and purpose that masks the terror of being loved for who you are rather than what you provide.

Your guide for this
Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Attachment theory — complete guide?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.