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When helping becomes a way to avoid intimacy

I keep choosing partners who need fixing because I feel most valuable when someone depends on me, but then I lose attraction once they become healthy.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The helper role provides a sense of control and purpose that masks the terror of being loved for who you are rather than what you provide.

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