I understand interpersonal effectiveness but I still cannot say no to anyone without feeling like I am stabbing them in the heart.
More people experience this than they realize.
The nervous system can interpret healthy boundary-setting as an act of aggression when it has been conditioned to equate others' comfort with one's own safety.
“Where Are You with DBT for emotional dysregulation?”
Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.