I've been the only person of color in my workplace friend group for three years and I'm exhausted from code-switching and explaining things and pretending microaggressions don't hurt, but these are genuinely good people who care about me, and I don't know if the cost of belonging here is worth it anymore.
More people experience this than they realize.
The human need to belong can force us into impossible choices between acceptance and authenticity.
“Where Are You with The need to belong — evolutionary foundation?”
Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.