My best friend and I have been talking about how we've both become these completely different versions of ourselves to meet everyone else's expectations — her as the perfect daughter, me as the reliable colleague — and we're realizing we don't even know who we actually are anymore underneath all these roles. We keep joking about 'finding ourselves' but it feels impossible when everyone around us needs us to stay exactly who we've always been for them.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two friends are discovering that their individual identities have become entirely defined by relational obligations, leaving them questioning who they are beyond what others need them to be.
“Where Are You with Confucian relational self?”
Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.