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Scenario

When friends disagree about how to honor someone who died

My best friend and I have been talking about writing something to honor our mentor who died last year, but every time we sit down to do it we end up in completely different places about what mattered most about her. I keep wanting to capture her fierce honesty and he keeps focusing on her gentleness, and it's starting to feel like we knew completely different people.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The dead live differently in each person who loved them, and honoring that multiplicity while creating something together requires navigating the tender reality that grief is never shared equally.

Your guide for this
Rabia
Rabia works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Grief and legacy — how the dead continue to live in us?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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