My best friend since college and I are both Latina but she passes as white and I don't, and when we're out together I watch people treat us completely differently and we've never talked about it. It's starting to affect how comfortable I am in the spaces she chooses for us to hang out.
More people experience this than they realize.
The unspoken tension when proximity reveals differential treatment, and neither person knows how to name what's happening without threatening the bond.
“Where Are You with The minority experience of belonging in majority spaces?”
Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.