My brother and I are both adopted and we've always bonded over that, but now he's doing this whole ancestry DNA thing and connecting with his birth family while I have zero interest in any of that. It's creating this weird tension where he keeps asking why I don't want to 'know where I come from' and I feel like he's judging my choice to consider our adoptive parents as my only real family.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people who shared a formative identity are discovering they've developed fundamentally different relationships to belonging and what makes family real.
“Where Are You with The hyphenated identity and belonging?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.