My brother and I are both trying to decide whether to let our kids have relationships with our father who was violent with us growing up but has been in therapy for years and says he's changed, and we keep going back and forth about forgiveness and safety and what we owe our children versus what we owe ourselves.
More people experience this than they realize.
Siblings are navigating the complex terrain between protecting their own children and honoring claims of change from a parent whose violence shaped their childhoods, with no clear moral framework for making such decisions.
“Where Are You with Violence in families — understanding and breaking cycles?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.