My brother and I are both trying to forgive our dad for things he did when we were kids, but we're doing it completely differently — he wants to have regular dinners and 'move forward' while I need Dad to actually acknowledge what happened first, and it's creating this weird tension where we're almost competing over who's handling forgiveness 'right.'
More people experience this than they realize.
The path toward forgiveness becomes fractured when family members need different things from the same person who hurt them.
“Where Are You with Forgiving parents?”
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