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When supporting a friend through crisis becomes overwhelming

My closest friend has been going through a really hard time for over a year and I've been the main person supporting her, but lately I feel exhausted and resentful and then guilty for feeling that way. I don't know how to take care of myself without abandoning her, and I'm starting to avoid her calls which makes me feel worse.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The weight of being someone's primary emotional support is creating resentment that threatens both the helper's wellbeing and the friendship itself.

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