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When long-term friendships struggle to adapt to midlife changes

My closest friends and I are all in our early forties now and we keep making plans that we then cancel or reschedule and there's this unspoken sadness that our lives have gotten too complicated for the kind of friendship we used to have. We love each other but we can't seem to figure out how to stay close in this season of life.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

People who have grown up together are learning that sustained intimacy requires intentionally evolving the forms of connection as the context of their lives shifts.

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