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How long-term friendships can drift into performance rather than connection

My college friends and I have been getting together for fifteen years and somewhere along the way our reunions became about performing success rather than actual connection. We spend the whole time talking about achievements and avoiding anything vulnerable, and now I feel like I don't actually know these people anymore.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Success can become the enemy of intimacy when we mistake achievements for the people who earned them.

Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Unintended legacy — what we leave without meaning to?”

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.