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Scenario

When sobriety changes long-term friendships

My college roommate and I stayed close for fifteen years after graduation, but since she got sober two years ago our friendship feels completely different and I don't know how to navigate it. She's changed in ways that are good for her but I feel like I lost my friend and I don't know if that makes me a terrible person.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people are discovering that growth and healing in one person can destabilize a relationship built on different premises, requiring both to grieve who they used to be together.

Your guide for this
Rabia
Rabia works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Parasocial relationships?”

Peri

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