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Scenario

When friends build their relationship around shared parasocial attachments

My friend and I have both been following this influencer for three years and we talk about her like she's someone we actually know, but now she's going through a public breakup and we're having real arguments about whose 'side' we're on and I'm realizing we've built part of our friendship around someone who doesn't know we exist. It's starting to feel pathetic but also I don't know how to untangle it without losing something that actually matters to us.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people have discovered that a significant portion of their real friendship has become structured around their shared investment in someone who will never reciprocate that emotional energy.

Your guide for this
Rabia
Rabia works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Parasocial relationships?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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