My friend group has this unspoken arrangement where two of us always host, always organize, always remember birthdays and plan the trips, while the others just show up. We've never talked about it but I can feel the resentment building on both sides — us for carrying everything, them for feeling like they can never do anything right or good enough. I don't know how to rebalance this without making everyone defensive.
More people experience this than they realize.
The invisible labor of maintaining relationships has become concentrated in some hands while others drift into passive participation, creating resentment that threatens the group's foundation.
“Where Are You with Reciprocity as community foundation?”
Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.