My husband and I have completely different responses when our 3-year-old has meltdowns — he wants to give consequences immediately and I want to comfort her first — and we keep undermining each other in front of her. We've started having this silent standoff where we both just freeze when she's screaming because we know the other person disagrees with whatever we're about to do.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people are discovering that their fundamental beliefs about childhood emotions and learning create an impossible bind when they need to act as one.
“Where Are You with Toddler development and discipline philosophy?”
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