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When couples keep having the same fight without resolving anything

My husband and I keep having the same fight about his mother's visits and we both know it's not really about the visits but we can't seem to get underneath it to what we're actually protecting ourselves from. Every time we start to get close to the real thing one of us shuts down.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The surface conflict has become a way to avoid the deeper conversation that might actually heal something.

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