My mother-in-law was violent with my husband when he was growing up and now she wants to babysit our toddler and my husband thinks she's changed but I can see how he still flinches around her and I don't know how to navigate this without making him choose between his family and protecting our child.
More people experience this than they realize.
A couple is navigating conflicting assessments of danger from a family member whose past violence affects their current parenting decisions, complicated by one partner's unresolved trauma responses.
“Where Are You with Violence in families — understanding and breaking cycles?”
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