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Scenario

How to evaluate longtime friendships that have become toxic

My oldest friend and I have been part of the same social circle for fifteen years, but lately we're both noticing how the group has become really judgmental and exclusive - there's constant criticism of people who aren't present, unspoken rules about what's acceptable to share, and this sense that everyone's watching everyone else for signs of disloyalty. We built our adult social lives around these people but the relationships are starting to feel more like survival than friendship.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The friends who know our history can become the ones who trap us in it.

Your guide for this
Rabia
Rabia works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with The toxicity of some tribes?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.