Periagoge
Scenario

When older siblings try to protect a younger one from parentification

My oldest sister and I are watching our youngest sister repeat the same patterns we did - taking care of everyone, saying yes to everything, never putting herself first - and we can't figure out how to intervene without either enabling the family dynamic or making her feel abandoned. We want to break the cycle but we don't know how to help her without becoming part of the problem.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Former parentified children are watching their sibling fall into the same trap, torn between rescuing her and modeling the boundaries they wish they'd learned earlier.

Your guide for this
Rabia
Rabia works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with The parentified child?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.