My partner and I have been having the same fights for three years - the same tone, the same accusations, the same way of shutting down - and our teenage daughter just asked if we're getting divorced. I realized she's been watching us model what marriage looks like and we've been teaching her that love includes constant low-level hostility.
More people experience this than they realize.
The relationship we think we're hiding from our children is actually the one we're teaching them to expect.
“Where Are You with Unintended legacy — what we leave without meaning to?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.