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Scenario

When couples realize their conflict patterns are teaching their children about relationships

My partner and I have been having the same fights for three years - the same tone, the same accusations, the same way of shutting down - and our teenage daughter just asked if we're getting divorced. I realized she's been watching us model what marriage looks like and we've been teaching her that love includes constant low-level hostility.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The relationship we think we're hiding from our children is actually the one we're teaching them to expect.

Your guide for this
Rabia
Rabia works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Unintended legacy — what we leave without meaning to?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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