Periagoge
Scenario

When couples have opposite needs for solitude and connection

My partner and I have been together for eight years and we've developed this rhythm where I need a lot of alone time to recharge and they need constant connection and social energy, and lately it feels like we're living parallel lives in the same house. We love each other but I'm starting to wonder if we're fundamentally incompatible in how we exist in the world.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people are discovering that their essential ways of being—one requiring solitude, one requiring connection—may be creating distance rather than intimacy.

Your guide for this
Rabia
Rabia works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Solitude and belonging — the necessary tension?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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