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Scenario

When long-term couples avoid defining their relationship trajectory

My partner and I have been together for eight years and we've talked about marriage casually but never seriously, and now we're both in our thirties and I can feel us both waiting for the other person to bring it up properly, which is creating this weird tension where we're planning a future without talking about what that future actually is.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The comfort of an established relationship has created a space where both people are afraid to name what they actually want.

Your guide for this
Rabia
Rabia works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
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Worth thinking about

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Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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