My partner and I have been trying for three years and we've started avoiding our friends who have babies, and now we're both angry at different people for different reasons and I think we're becoming the kind of couple that other people avoid too. We used to love being around kids and now every baby shower invitation feels like a small cruelty and we can't agree on whether to keep showing up or just stop pretending we're okay.
More people experience this than they realize.
Shared grief is reshaping how you both move through the world, but you're grieving differently and it's isolating you from each other and your community.
“Where Are You with Infertility and the grief of wanting children?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.