Periagoge
Scenario

When one partner has deep roots and the other feels permanently displaced

My partner and I moved to his hometown two years ago and I still feel like an outsider in his friend group and community, and now I'm starting to resent him for having this automatic belonging that I have to earn, but I don't know how to say that without sounding jealous.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The asymmetry of belonging in a relationship can create an invisible hierarchy that threatens intimacy itself.

Your guide for this
Rabia
Rabia works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with The need to belong — evolutionary foundation?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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