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When couples struggle to make meaningful friendships together in a new city

My partner and I moved to this city three years ago and we keep making these surface-level connections at work events and neighborhood things but we never seem to get past the small talk phase with anyone. We both want deeper friendships but we're starting to realize we might be the problem — like maybe we've gotten too comfortable just being everything to each other and we don't actually know how to let other people in anymore.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people who've become each other's entire social world are discovering they may have lost the capacity for vulnerability with new people.

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