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Scenario

When staying neutral in family conflicts leads to punishment

My sister and I are both seeing how our extended family has this pattern of turning on anyone who doesn't participate in the family drama - if you don't take sides in conflicts or refuse to engage with gossip and feuds, you get treated like you think you're better than everyone else. We're tired of being pulled into other people's fights but the cost of staying neutral seems to be getting excluded from everything, including seeing our nieces and nephews.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Some families weaponize connection, making peace contingent on participation in their wars.

Your guide for this
Rabia
Rabia works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with The toxicity of some tribes?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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