My spouse and I have been married for fifteen years and we've gotten into this pattern where we're excellent co-parents and household managers but we've completely stopped connecting as romantic partners. We both see it happening but we're so tired and busy that addressing it feels like another task on the list, which makes it worse.
More people experience this than they realize.
You've become so efficient at life together that you've optimized away the very thing that brought you together.
“Where Are You with Parenting and identity — who are you beyond parent??”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.