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When friend triangles form and one person becomes the constant mediator

My two best friends from high school and I used to do everything together but over the past few years we've become this triangle where I'm close to both of them but they barely tolerate each other. I feel caught in the middle of their personality clash and I'm starting to resent having to manage separate relationships with people who used to be a unit.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

A three-way friendship has collapsed into a structure where one person carries the emotional labor of maintaining connection while the others remain in conflict.

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