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When friends put you in the middle of their conflict

My two closest friends have been having this ongoing conflict for months and they both keep venting to me about each other, and I love them both but I'm exhausted from being in the middle and I think they're using me to avoid actually working it out, but I don't know how to extract myself without damaging both friendships.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Being chosen as confidant can become a form of exile from the authentic relationship you actually want with each person.

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