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Scenario

When couples disagree about preserving native language with their children

My wife and I are fighting about whether to speak our native language at home with our kids now that they're school-age and struggling to fit in. She thinks we're failing them if we don't preserve our culture, and I think we're making their lives harder by not helping them assimilate. We both want what's best for them but we can't agree on what that actually means.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two parents are discovering that their deepest values about identity, belonging, and what constitutes a good life for their children are in fundamental conflict.

Your guide for this
Rabia
Rabia works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Assimilation vs. cultural preservation?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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