My wife and I both have parents who are starting to lean on us more for decisions, and we're discovering we have totally different ideas about how much responsibility we should take on. She thinks we should step up and take charge while I think we should encourage them to stay independent as long as possible.
More people experience this than they realize.
The revelation that you and your partner have fundamentally different philosophies about dependence, independence, and the obligations of adulthood.
“Where Are You with When parents age — role reversal?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.