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When long marriages become efficient but disconnected

My wife and I have been married for fifteen years and we're good partners in managing life but somewhere along the way we stopped being curious about each other. We function well together but I realize I don't really know what she thinks about anymore and I'm not sure she knows me either.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Successful partnership can quietly replace intimacy when couples optimize for function without tending to the mystery of who each person is becoming.

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