My wife is Black and I'm white and we live in this liberal city where everyone thinks they're progressive, but we keep having these experiences at parties or school events where people say things to one of us that they wouldn't say to the other. We end up processing it differently and sometimes she thinks I don't get it and sometimes I think she's being too generous to people who are clearly being weird about our relationship.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people are learning that sharing a life doesn't mean sharing an experience, and that their different social positions can create distance even in their most intimate bond.
“Where Are You with The hyphenated identity and belonging?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.