Our family gatherings have become these performances where everyone plays their assigned role — the successful one, the caretaker, the family clown — and my cousin and I started talking about how exhausting it is but also how we don't know how to be anything else when we're all together. We've been these people for so long that changing feels like it would shatter something important, but staying the same is slowly killing parts of who we could be.
More people experience this than they realize.
Family members are recognizing that their relational identities within the family system have become rigid performances that prevent authentic connection and individual growth.
“Where Are You with Confucian relational self?”
Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.