Our family group chat has become this toxic space where my mom sends passive-aggressive messages about who's visiting enough and my siblings and I all respond differently — some people fight back, others go silent, and I try to smooth things over. None of us has figured out how to address the real issue which is that Mom is lonely and we all feel guilty but also resentful.
More people experience this than they realize.
A family system is organized around avoiding direct conversation about love, obligation, and emotional needs.
“Where Are You with Belonging vs. fitting in — the distinction that matters?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.