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Scenario

How to handle toxic family group dynamics and underlying needs

Our family group chat has become this toxic space where my mom sends passive-aggressive messages about who's visiting enough and my siblings and I all respond differently — some people fight back, others go silent, and I try to smooth things over. None of us has figured out how to address the real issue which is that Mom is lonely and we all feel guilty but also resentful.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

A family system is organized around avoiding direct conversation about love, obligation, and emotional needs.

Your guide for this
Rabia
Rabia works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Belonging vs. fitting in — the distinction that matters?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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