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How over-functioning in relationships prevents deeper connection

I am good at being the listener and helper but I do not know how to let people see my struggles and without that vulnerability I think my friendships stay shallow.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The helper role provides safety through control but precludes the mutuality that creates real intimacy.

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