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How infertility creates an identity limbo between wanting and being

I have been trying to get pregnant for four years and everyone treats me like I am already a mother because I want it so badly but I feel like I am pretending to be something I am not.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The prolonged desire for parenthood without its fulfillment creates a painful suspension between identities, neither fully childless nor parent.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Parenting and identity — who are you beyond parent??”

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.