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Scenario

When compliments reveal hidden biases about your identity

My coworkers always comment on how articulate I am and I smile but inside I'm wondering what they expected and why that's supposed to be a compliment.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Praise that highlights surprise at competence exposes the low expectations others held.

Your guide for this
Rabia
Rabia works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

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Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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