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When gratitude feels impossible after losing your child

My daughter died at age twenty-five and people keep telling me to be grateful for the years I had with her, but I am not grateful, I am furious that it was not enough.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Well-meaning attempts to find silver linings deny the parent's right to experience the full catastrophe of premature loss.

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