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Scenario

How to balance ancestral duties to different families

My in-laws expect me to bow to their family altar but it feels like I'm betraying my own ancestors and I don't know how to honor both families without choosing sides.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Marriage creates competing ancestral allegiances that seem to demand exclusive loyalty.

Your guide for this
Rabia
Rabia works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Confucian ancestral tablets and ongoing relationship?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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