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Scenario

When children default to one parent for comfort

My toddler calls me mama and my husband daddy but only asks for me when hurt, scared, or tired and I do not know if this is biological or learned.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Comfort-seeking patterns in children reflect complex interactions between attachment, availability, and cultural messaging about caregiving roles.

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Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Gender and parenting — who does what and why?”

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