My brother and I were both raised Catholic and had very different relationships to it - he found peace in leaving completely and I found peace in staying but thinking about it differently - but now our mother is dying and we need to figure out together what kind of service and rituals will honor her and feel authentic to all of us. Every conversation about it becomes about our own relationship to faith instead of about her, and time is running out.
More people experience this than they realize.
The most tender moments of human passage can become battlegrounds when those who must honor the dying carry different understandings of the sacred.
“Where Are You with Miracles — across traditions?”
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