My prayer group has been meeting in my home for two years but one member recently went through a messy divorce and now uses our sacred time to process her anger and resentment in ways that feel draining to everyone else. We all care about her but the energy has become heavy and toxic and I don't know how to address it without abandoning her when she needs us most.
More people experience this than they realize.
The impulse to hold space for someone's pain can become a form of spiritual codependency that slowly poisons the well everyone comes to drink from.
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